I totally agree with what you say here. I also commend you for mentioning the “victimhood” you state. By playing victim all the time it is creating a blame instead of identifying a potential problem or conflict.
But, referring to your initial illustration. Is it possible that the things you mention would “make YOU the problem” or “ not the right one” instead of the other person and in experiencing the situations those characteristics come out for you and that is how you have the ability to identify and acknowledge a problem or issue and deal with it ?
I’d like to add though, that this doesn’t mean we are allowing someone to gaslight us when clearly they have an issue and instead want to deflect blame onto us. It simply means that we know exactly where we stand, what we need to work on and what they need to work on. It doesn’t mean we stick around for more gaslighting either. It means we recognize what we’re permitting and WHY.
Stephanie, It’s always wonderful when we look inside you did excellent job of bringing that out
Thank You Be Well
Mirror mirror oh it’s a house of mirrors
So many mirrors!
I totally agree with what you say here. I also commend you for mentioning the “victimhood” you state. By playing victim all the time it is creating a blame instead of identifying a potential problem or conflict.
But, referring to your initial illustration. Is it possible that the things you mention would “make YOU the problem” or “ not the right one” instead of the other person and in experiencing the situations those characteristics come out for you and that is how you have the ability to identify and acknowledge a problem or issue and deal with it ?
Yes, in fact. I do believe so. Basically all of our spiritual growth revolves around learning how to humble ourselves and see everyone as an equal.
I’d like to add though, that this doesn’t mean we are allowing someone to gaslight us when clearly they have an issue and instead want to deflect blame onto us. It simply means that we know exactly where we stand, what we need to work on and what they need to work on. It doesn’t mean we stick around for more gaslighting either. It means we recognize what we’re permitting and WHY.