They Called My Son's ADHD a Condition
And that's when I stopped them in their tracks.
“We didn’t know about your son’s condition…”
I immediately stopped my son’s principal at that moment.
“It’s not a condition”, I confidently claimed before she could go any further.
I knew where she was about to go and I wasn’t about to go there with her.
“My son’s inability to focus in your classroom is not a condition. What’s actually happening is you have conditions he can’t fit into.” I said.
Let’s stop putting everything into a box.
I think this is why we have such a sick and confused society. And there is no way in hell my kids will fall prey to the way society solves problems.
You can’t solve problems when you’re sick and confused.
A Society So Focused on Fixing Rather Than Understanding
How quick society is to place labels on everything because they refuse to take the time to understand something.
I felt two things happen in this moment:
My heart exploded with compassion for all of the children and families out there facing what I am facing right now. And a fire began to kindle in my belly because some kind of significant action needs to be taken in the way society handles mental health.
My Child is a Free Spirit
You… the WORLD, just can’t accept that can you? A free spirit isn’t something you can control or begin to understand. You want to label everything and fix it. Give it medication and make it conform to what you deem acceptable.
No way, and no thank you.
Do not call my son’s light, joy, intelligence, and desire for more life, more love, and more creation…. a condition.
I will handle this my way, thank you.
I will handle it with love, communication, flexibility, changes in diet, herbal solutions, essential oils that relax him, breathwork, stimulating activities that inspire him, and alternative solutions.
I will educate him on how he is so creative and so empathic and so intelligent that sometimes it’s hard for him to keep it all contained and ‘perform’ according to the world’s standards.
It’s Not a Problem
I know the world likes to call it ADHD.
But ADHD is not a problem. How we’re handling it is a problem.
We think our emotions are the problem. We think everything that feels slightly inconvenient is a problem.
As soon as you called it a condition, you reminded me of the EXACT reason why I haven’t taken him to a specialist yet.
Because it’s going to take a super special person to understand what mental health looks like today in a world that is waking up to their truth, with children that literally CAME HERE to do it, to wake you up.
In a world that is doing everything it can to confuse you and stop you from awakening.
In a world that is doing everything it can to keep these little light-bringers from making us change our ways.
In a world that wants to hold on to something it can no longer hold on to.
We need more conscious parents talking about this.
You cannot put my child in a box, label it, and throw him some medication so you can say you fixed it.
The way we are living as a society is not natural.
We are not meant to sit for hours a day in front of a computer. We are not designed to follow a formula that only goes in one direction. We are not meant to live the way we are living right now.
And these kids know it. They came here with a knowing and with the soul purpose of changing things. They just can’t fit into your clown show, rat race, insane asylum, and unnatural ways of living.
In my opinion, ADHD is not a condition.
It is a gift and you just can’t see that, can you?
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As someone with ADHD, and a daughter with ADHD I think we need to find a happy medium. ADHD for me is a condition. It’s a condition that led to my lights being shut off in my 20s because I would write the checks but forget for months to put them in the mailbox. (I’m obviously dating myself) Always telling myself I would do it when I left the house the next morning.
I have a condition where I need a 3 hour nap after opening Christmas gifts because of all the noise and chaos. Most Christmases I cry because I am so overwhelmed.
Yes, I see the world in a magical way a lot of my peers never did. And I tell my daughter not to let anything dull that same sparkle in her. Yes, there are areas we excel in that won’t be measured in a standardized test.
But for some of, ADHD is a real disability that has caused massive issues in our lives before diagnosis. Our ability to ask ourselves “is this normal or part of my condition?” Makes a huge difference knowing when we ask for help, what aides we need for functions in society that aren’t a negotiable, (like remembering to pay bills and rent) and when the mania of a new project or idea isn’t healthy. (When I haven’t slept or eaten for days because I’m so hyper focused on something)
We also need to recognize that.
There are so many plus sides to having ADHD and parts I wouldn’t want to change for the world. But I also have a condition, and it needs to be looked at as such sometimes.
Good for you. Mothers standing up for their children is beautiful.