Choose Your Mission Over Their Expectations
Stop contorting your path to fit someone else’s blueprint. Your sacred work won’t be understood by the ones who fear their own.
Suddenly, performing someone else’s version of purpose becomes more painful than walking your own, no matter how lonely that walk feels at first. Eventually, you’ll notice when you’ve been walking out of alignment.
I’ve felt that ache.
The ache of knowing I was built for something different…
while watching others move faster, louder, more visibly in directions that I thought I longed for.
The ache of wondering if I was falling behind, or simply falling into place.
In hindsight, I began noticing the ache in my knees. As an avid yogi, I couldn’t figure out why it was becoming more and more difficult for me to perform warrior, chair pose, and goddess pose.
Soon, it was becoming painful just walking up the stairs, and I thought to myself, “What the heck is going on here? I’m healthy, I’m not old. Do I have arthritis?”
But I remembered in Kundalini training, when I learned that the body speaks. And typically, when we are not walking our divine path, we’ll feel it in the knees, feet and legs. Since these parts of the body are the foundation that keep us anchored on the earth and walking our path, it makes sense.
I started to pay attention here.
A World Obsessed With Frameworks
We live in a world obsessed with frameworks and structure. Everyone is ready to sell you their way of achieving success.
Business blueprints. Content calendars.
“Here’s how I did it, so you should too.”
That NEVER worked for me. No matter how much money I invested in doing things their way, it didn’t work.
Yeah, I wasted a lot of money, but I gained valuable insights and priceless knowledge:
It didn’t work because I am not meant to walk the same path. I am meant to create something entirely new. And it needs to be birthed through my personal frequency. My essence. My divinity.
So if you find yourself where I was, here’s the truth:
Your soul’s mission is not a funnel.
It’s a frequency.
And the only way to stay in resonance with it is to stop outsourcing your rhythm to someone else's strategy.
Choosing Your Mission Means Letting Go
Choosing your mission means letting go of what looks right and what feels comfortable.
It means allowing your body (not your metrics) to show you when something’s off.
It even means walking away from what appears to be “working” when it no longer feels true.
It’s terrifying and holy, all at the same time.
Terrifying because when you choose your soul’s mission, you will lose things:
The need to be understood by people who’ve never met your depth. The desire to compare your pace to someone else’s race and path. The belief that success has to look like speed or an ideal outcome.
We become attached to these outcomes so much that we find it painful to surrender to the outcome the Universe has planned for us.
In my case, I am faced with the real and raw reality of what it means to move from mother to matriarch. Embodying the Priestess archetype, which is my mission, is not for the faint of heart.
It requires me to let go of an identity I built around the lives of my husband and my children. It requires me to let go of a little control. And, it requires me to admit that I have been attempting to control everyone else’s life around me… but my own.
It requires me to admit that I chose comfort. But to know and trust that that is what was required of me at the time.
Because during the earlier years of motherhood, that was my mission. To raise and protect my children. To embody the nurturing, intuitive parts of me.
And now… a letting go.
A trust that I did well, but it’s time to take everything I have learned, all the strength I have embodied as a mother, and move towards my mission.
To admit that right now, I am living my husband’s version of reality. What’s safe. What makes sense to him. What is best for the kids.
None of that might actually be what’s best for me. And as painful as that is, I have to look at that and ask myself: “Am I choosing me, here?” While at the same time, releasing resentment and blame. That’s hard!
I provided the safety, the nurturing, and the emotional scaffolding so others could stabilize while I stayed still. And that was exactly what God wanted me to do, at that time in my life.
Choose Your Expansion
Life isn’t meant to keep you static.
It’s meant to expand you, to stretch your capacity, your voice, and your truth.
And sometimes, that expansion starts as restlessness.
As an ache, like I had in my knees.
Maybe an earache, like I eventually got. A clear message that symbolized: “You’re not listening.”
A quiet knowing that you’ve outgrown what you’ve been holding.
That doesn’t always mean rupture, divorce or separation. No. I am not planning on leaving anyone behind.
It doesn’t have to mean leaving.
But it does mean listening, and learning how to boldly choose my needs, and my dreams too.
It means that I have to forgive myself for setting my dreams aside, for the sake of others, just a little longer than I was supposed to.
It means that I have to forgive myself for using motherhood as my excuse.
But I also need to understand it was all perfect. I had a role to play, and I played it the best I could. Most Priestesses are not initiated into their calling until after they’ve raised their young.
Most were not allowed inside the temple until after the age of 40.
So it means I’m right on time.
It means that now it’s time to listen, not to the noise of what’s expected by society or those around me, but to the deeper call for evolution.
Because even in the sacredness of your relationship, there’s room for your own becoming.
Your soul doesn’t need permission to evolve. Only your devotion to follow where it’s asking you to go.
And when you choose that path, the dynamic doesn’t have to break.
It can deepen. It can reshape itself.
You don’t have to leave love behind to follow your truth.
You just have to stop abandoning yourself inside of it.
When you choose your mission, you gain sovereignty.
You gain softness.
You gain space to build what actually belongs to you.
If it’s slower, let it be slow.
If it’s quieter, let it be sacred.
If it’s misunderstood, let it be holy.
Your mission chose you.
Now it’s time to choose it back.
Because no one else can walk it for you.
And when you finally do…
You’ll stop craving validation and begin emanating truth.
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